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How to be (less) Awkward:

If someone is trying, with good intentions, to make your life easier, you must say thank you even if they didn’t help you as much as you would have liked. If a small toddler tried to help you carry the laundry upstairs but ended up dropping most of it, you would still thank them for their effort. If a co-worker tried to help you by organizing some files but accidentally messed up a few, they still need to be thanked for their effort and their attempt to make your life easier.” – via www.smartprettyandawkward.com

I absolutely, positively, 100 percent HATE doing dishes. hate it. I’d rather scrub the bathtub, toilet and floors before doing dishes.

growing up, my mom would leave little post-it notes for me or my sister “Allie, do the dishes and take out kitchen garbage” seems like a simple, easy-enough task. nope. I’d start the dishes (after only a few minutes of groaning) and within 3 minutes my mom would be in telling me what I was doing wrong. “you need to fill the entire left side of the sink with water and let them soak before you do the dishes” “don’t let the water run constantly allison, it’s a waste” “these look good but, they’re really spotty… rinse them again”

AHHHH. no matter how you did the dishes in my house, you could never do them right! It got to the point where I couldn’t stand doing the dishes. I would throw a fit and come up with every excuse possible to try and get out of it.

Molly’s piece of advice from www.smartprettyandawkward.com reminds me of why I hate doing the dishes. Maybe if my mom had stopped for a minute (although I’m sure she’ll say she did… ) and just said thank you for doing the dishes, without adding in everything I was doing wrong, I might not dread the dishes so much!

(the whole thing also could’ve been solved if we had just had a dishwasher!!)

“Nothing has turned out as we expected! It never does. Life’s under no obligation to give us what we expect. We take what we get and are thankful it’s no worse than it is.”

This quote is from Gone With the Wind (taken via Karishma). I wish I practiced this approach of looking at life: knowing that plans can be helpful, but accepting when they aren’t followed exactly; remembering that as inconvenienced or frustrated as I may be at the moment, it could still be a lot worse. But… I don’t.

Last night I was twenty minutes into the four hour drive home from my boyfriend’s apartment when our car broke down on the highway. Major inconvenience. It was 7:00 on a Sunday (Mother’s Day Sunday!) and no repair shops were open. Fortunately we had AAA and got a tow truck out within the hour but we still had no clue what to do. Do we rent a car and come back later in the week to pick up ours? I have work Monday morning… we just had a talk about the importance of putting in hours and showing face.. how bad will it look if I don’t show up?

Tons of questions ran irritatingly through my mind. I was tired, it was cold, why us? But then I remembered the four hour drive to my boyfriend’s apartment just a few days earlier… we saw a car completely turned upside down on the highway with at least six emergency vehicles trying to pull a person out from inside it. That’s when I realized it could be worse.

Sure, we were inconvenienced. And yeah, I was going to feel guilty and frustrated about not making it into work the next day. But still… it could be worse.

I wish I could have that thinking more often. And I think if we could all have a little perspective and make a conscious effort to follow this mantra from Gone With the Wind, we might see our stress levels fall and our appreciation for our own lives go up.