A quote filled with good advice from one of my all-time favorite movies, When Harry Met Sally. Sally says to Harry:
“You can’t express every feeling you have every moment you have them.”
I love this quote. As every one of my friends (and my mother) would tell you, I have a hard time suppressing my emotions when I feel them. Sometimes this is good. If I’m excited, looking forward to something, or filled with passion, it’s awesome to feel, see and show exactly how I’m feeling. But when I get impatient, frustrated or just plain pissed off… welll it’s not so pleasant.
I don’t really know how to compartmentalize my feelings and say “Okay Allie, let’s put this aside for now and come back to it later when it’s more appropriate”. Instead my mind is telling me “What are you doing, let’s solve this now!! We need to talk about it and yell about it and figure out what is happening and why, no waiting allowed!”
So lately, I’ve been trying to repeat Sally’s quote to myself. Expressing and acting on every emotion whenever I have them is not going to get me far. Sometimes it’s better to cool off, think, and then act.
Easier said than done..?
This quote is from Gone With the Wind (taken via Karishma). I wish I practiced this approach of looking at life: knowing that plans can be helpful, but accepting when they aren’t followed exactly; remembering that as inconvenienced or frustrated as I may be at the moment, it could still be a lot worse. But… I don’t.
Last night I was twenty minutes into the four hour drive home from my boyfriend’s apartment when our car broke down on the highway. Major inconvenience. It was 7:00 on a Sunday (Mother’s Day Sunday!) and no repair shops were open. Fortunately we had AAA and got a tow truck out within the hour but we still had no clue what to do. Do we rent a car and come back later in the week to pick up ours? I have work Monday morning… we just had a talk about the importance of putting in hours and showing face.. how bad will it look if I don’t show up?
Tons of questions ran irritatingly through my mind. I was tired, it was cold, why us? But then I remembered the four hour drive to my boyfriend’s apartment just a few days earlier… we saw a car completely turned upside down on the highway with at least six emergency vehicles trying to pull a person out from inside it. That’s when I realized it could be worse.
Sure, we were inconvenienced. And yeah, I was going to feel guilty and frustrated about not making it into work the next day. But still… it could be worse.
I wish I could have that thinking more often. And I think if we could all have a little perspective and make a conscious effort to follow this mantra from Gone With the Wind, we might see our stress levels fall and our appreciation for our own lives go up.